I want to acknowledge up front that some may doubt the authenticity of what is being described in the interview you are about to read. The importance of these revelations is not really about whether they are factual or fantasy. Rather, it gives us insight into a cuckold’s innermost thoughts and fantasies. I share a lot about my own fantasies on the Dionysian Experience but the cuckold fantasy is experienced in many ways and I appreciate KC sharing his experience with us.
Michael – Thank you so much for the amazing reaction to Cuckolding: A Brief Introduction. Cuckolding comes in many variations and I enjoy trying to tease out the differences and explore the underlying psychology behind these variations. My first reaction to your personal cuckold journey is that it is very erotic, and I was quite turned on reading it. Now, I’d like to wander a bit through some of the topics you bring up in your cuckold experience.
KC- Thank you. As a cuckold in a 5-year relationship and now engaged to the woman who cuckolds me, I can tell you that much of your post rang true to me. There are many aspects to this lifestyle and I’d like to share a few at play in my cuckold experience.
Michael – How about we start first with your current relationship? Tell me about your emotional connection to your fiancé.
KC – We are deeply committed to each other emotionally and love each other very much. I treat her with respect and our relationship is a very loving one. Open and honest communication, trust, and respecting one another’s is desires is so important. We are open to exploring one another’s fantasies and may even try something. But, if neither of us are happy about it we won’t do it again. At least we tried though. Also, we aren’t looking for anything with other men outside of the bedroom. It is just about sexual play. I would add that we have taken breaks too and it isn’t an all-the-time lifestyle. Sometimes we will go for months without any form of cuckolding in our lives. At other times, we are very active and she may be getting fucked by multiple men in the course of week’s time.
Michael – The emotional connection and strength of the cuckold couple is often ignored so I appreciate you setting this foundation up front. Sex is an important part of a relationship but it isn’t the only thing. We know that couples can struggle with keeping passion’s flame burning over time and the sharing of fantasies is one way to keep passion’s flame ablaze. [Note: I explore this fading of romantic love in Romantic Love – Hearts on Fire and the potential for cuckolding (or sexual fantasies in general) to reignite passion in a relationship in Sperm Wars.] How was the fantasy introduced into your relationship?
KC – We were in the middle of pretty hot sex and I asked her to tell me her deepest, darkest fantasy. She shared that she wanted me to tie her up, blind fold her, and have another guy come in the room and fuck her while I watched. I was excited as I had always wanted to “watch” my woman with another man. We both came so hard that night after she shared her fantasy. Hearing your woman openly confess to wanting to fuck other men is one thing. Actually watching it happen would be another. I wondered if I could handle the “mind-fuck” of actually seeing it happen.
Michael – Yes, fantasy and reality are different realms. Your lover has an intriguing fantasy for how she wants this cuckold experience to play out. Sounds like she may have submissive desires and, perhaps, even a “taken by a stranger” fantasy. Do you see your fiancé as sexually submissive?
KC – She never really talked about it with me or acts that way. With the other guys, she loves feeling dominated and overpowered while being treated roughly, fucked hard, and feeling them cum inside her. She loves showing off for me, being slutty, and dressing up like a whore. It is surprising to see how VERY sexual she is in these moments.
Michael – It is interesting to see the sexual transformation she goes through during you cuckold play. I wrote a post called: Cognitive Dissonance – Hestia vs. Aphrodite that looks at the struggle women go through when trying to balance being a good wife, mother, and worker with their sexual side. By allowing and even encouraging her to embrace her sexuality, you are providing her with an erotic gift. Well done!
KC – Thank you. You see, I’ve been cheated on in a previous relationship and it’s emotionally devastating. Horrific. Having been cheated on before, one might logically ask why I would want to marry someone who not only wants to fuck other men, but wants to do it in front of me while I watch? There is a HUGE difference between someone screwing around behind your back and the Cuckolding lifestyle.
Michael – I’m so very sorry about your lover’s infidelity and the pain that brought upon you. As you probably are aware, this form of betrayal or significant emotional events can lead people to eroticize something that feels dangerous to us. In your case, this would be cuckolding. By encouraging a lover to be with another man, you have a sense that you are regaining control. Your callout on the HUGE difference between being cheated on and being cuckolded is absolutely spot on. Cuckolding as a lifestyle is ultimately about the couple’s experience and both of them are turned on by it. Cheating is a different situation all together. Did you harbor this fantasy before your wife cheated on you?
KC – I had the cuckold fantasy for years in other relationships but none of these women had any interest in being sexually adventurous and wouldn’t even talk about fantasies. So yes, the idea of cuckolding DID turn me on and has been a long-held fantasy. Personally, I don’t believe that women are biologically designed or meant to have sex with just one man. Having said that, it IS a choice. As a choice, it’s one that a woman has control over. In my case, I don’t believe my fiancé would continue with our cuckolding lifestyle if I asked her not to.
Michael – Your fiancé set out her fantasy in great detail about how she would like to experience it. Tell me about your first cuckold experience.
KC – I tied her arms tied behind her back and blindfolded her. Our bull then entered the room and fucked her from behind as I stood by and stroked my cock. Actually watching another man stick his cock inside her and fuck her had my heart racing and pounding! It was such an unknown space, but I could tell she was really enjoying it and that excited me even more. This became a regular part of our play and we often fucked afterwards. So, it was with my fiancé that I actually experienced cuckolding and now we both love it.
KC – I will also add here that I saw some gay porn on her computer and asked her about it. She said it turned her on and she fantasized about watching me suck cock. I came out to her as having some bisexual experiences in my past. She encouraged my bisexuality and wanted me to have sex with men. Our love for cock is something we both share. It brought us closer, even if I was and still am somewhat uncomfortable with my bisexuality, she loves it.
Michael – You mention of bisexuality is an interesting topic that I haven’t written about in much depth. I believe cuckolds fall into three camps on this. 1) Straight men with no interest in male-male contact 2) Bisexual men 3) Men that will play with other men as a form of erotic humiliation (e.g., being “forced” to suck the Bull’s cock). Outside of the erotic rush they feel from this humiliation, these men aren’t interested in male-male contact. I’ve actually been surprised by the number of women that find it hot seeing two men together. It appears your fiancé is in that group and we know which one you fall into. 🙂 So, you’ve mentioned a couple times her desire for you to watch and now to watch you. You guys are always together during your cuckold sexual play?
KC – Almost always. It is important to her that I am there to watch. I think part of this is for safety reasons but she also wants me to see how much she is enjoying herself and how much the other men enjoy fucking her. It’s part of what turns her on about it. Each time she gets fucked, she glances at me to see if I’m hard or stroking my cock. She is always very aware of my presence and wants to know I’m enjoying myself.
Michael – Yes, I see these themes a lot in cuckold fantasies…especially the eye contact. Some cuckolds derive great pleasure in having a “hot wife”. It turns these men on to see how hot the wife can make other men. In a way, it is a badge of honor and source of pride for the cuckold, ”She’s so amazing and she’s mine!” Many cuckolds also derive great joy in enjoy seeing their lover experiencing sexual pleasure. The more she enjoys herself, the hotter the experience is for the cuckold. Both of these come through in fiancé’s desire to have you present. What type of man do you guys look for when selecting a bull?
KC – As far as her preference, her biggest thing is that they be hung (larger than me). More recently, she exclusively limits our potential candidates to black men.
Michael – Ah, interracial cuckolding. A personal favorite of mine as well. What is about black men that makes this hotter for you two?
KC – Well, it’s just a preference. Being a white couple, I do enjoy the contrast of black and white skin. She is a sexual woman but never had sex with black men prior to our relationship. She grew up exposed to a lot of racist beliefs running through her family and they would not have approved of her dating black men. She was curious though about the sexual myths. With me, she can spread her legs for as many black men as she wants within the privacy of our marriage.
Michael – So, she has actually been with black men?
KC – Definitely! She absolutely loved her first big black cock! I mean she went wild! She was blindfolded and rode his cock and orgasmed like no tomorrow. I love the contrast of seeing a black man’s large, dark cock going in her white pussy. After a few black cock experiences, she decided she only wanted black men for our cuckold play. She confided in me recently that she has now had more sex with black men than white men in her life. All of this since we have been together.
Michael – That is a hot statement for her to make.
KC – Yeah, she has gotten into this black cock-only thing. She even likes wearing “Queen of Spades” temporary tattoos and jewelry.
Michael – That is always hot when women do that…especially in public. You mention that she is submissive with her black bulls. Are you guys into humiliation play?
KC – I wouldn’t say that femdom is in our relationship. We don’t experience humiliation like you see in some cuckold stories where she is explicitly speaking to me in a negative way. It is more indirect I suppose. She doesn’t tell me I have a small cock even though I’m below average. Instead, she will tell me how much she loves HIS big black cock while he’s fucking her and afterwards while I am eating his cum from her pussy. Or, when the BBC guy arrives she will tell him how much she has been thinking about him and wanting his cock. It is all humiliating yet so very hot! Plus, I feel some sense of humiliation watching another man fucking her and make her orgasm. It IS humiliating to a degree watching your woman being fucked by a huge black cock (or any for that matter) and absolutely loving it. Seeing my woman riding a BBC and moaning and screaming with pleasure in ways I can’t give her is humiliating. There just isn’t any way around describing this feeling. He can give her something I can’t. I am okay with this…it works for US.
Michael – I can see how humiliation play is being used. Humiliation is a form of psychological masochism (the “M” in BDSM). She might not tell you that you have a small cock but she lets you know how much she enjoys having a another man’s big cock. It gets to the same humiliation point of cock size but comes at it from a more circuitous route. I break down the nuances of Femdom, humiliation play, and cuckolding a distinct sexual fetishes in post: Cuckolding vs. Femdom (coming soon). These fetishes can exist independently but are often intertwined in male cuckold fantasies. You guys seem to have a cuckold fantasy with some humiliation play but no Femdom present. Is there anything else you would like to share?
KC – Yes, I LOVE creampies! We have experienced a lot of sex with other men. Eventually, I got into fucking her after they came inside her. I became so addicted to that feeling. The lube of another man’s cum and the feeling of it was insane. I especially love going down on her after another man has cum inside her. It is VERYYY humiliating but also incredibly exciting!
Michael – I totally get the creampie fantasy and will have several posts devoted to this topic (experiential and psychological).
KC – One more thing. People often ask me about jealousy. Am I jealous when she is being fucked and enjoying it? I wouldn’t call it jealousy. It feels more like envy. I’m envious that I don’t have such a huge, hard cock. But, at the same time, when it’s all over he will be the one leaving and she chooses to be with me.
Michael – Well said, my friend. In the end the journey belongs to you and your lover. This is the ultimate power of the cuckold.
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