Setting the Stage
Neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam analyzed one billion sex-related search terms as research for their 2012 book, A Billion Wicked Thoughts. They found that cuckold-related searches rank #2 among most searched for sexual content on the internet. Ogas and Gaddam drilled down even deeper. After gaining access to the database of a popular cuckold erotica site, they identified the following as the most common two-word search phrases: Black Cock #1, Black Man #2, and Big Black #6. Cuckolding and interracial sex are separate fetishes but they are often intertwined in sexual fantasies and, as the data suggests, very popular.
The distinction between interracial relationships in general and interracial sex as a kink should be noted. The former refers to people falling in love without regard to ethnic differences. The latter sexualizes and eroticizes ethnic differences and is the focus of my exploration. The interracial sex fetish flows both ways and isn’t only the sexual fetishization of black men by “some” white people. There are also “some” black men that fetishize white women and white wives. Each derives added sexual pleasure from the interracial layers of these sexual liaisons.
Joshua is the next guest to visit The Cuckold Corner. He is a 30-something, white American male with an interracial cuckold fetish. He is currently in a long-term relationship working towards his first cuckold experience but has yet to experience it.
Michael – Hi Joshua, I appreciate you taking some time to share your cuckold fantasy with me.
Joshua – Hey, you have such a fine collection of cuckold content. I’ve read some of your stories and you seem to be a highly educated man. I congratulate you on your work and hope to experience what you write about.
Michael – Thank you, glad you enjoyed them. I hope you and your girlfriend are having fun with the fantasy and, if you decide, are able to bring it life one day.
Joshua – I hope we do too. We just need to find someone close to us. Do you like only interracial cuckolding or any kind of cuckolding?
Michael – I enjoy the cuckold fantasy/experience in its pure form. A man and woman in love with one another, the woman giving herself to another man, and her man being turned on by this experience. Beyond this, everything else is a kink within a kink. I see interracial sex as a distinct kink and like to layer it in within my cuckold fantasy. However, regardless of the role I am playing (alpha male or cuckold), I really enjoy all the mental layers of the fantasy. How about you, what are your thoughts?
Joshua – I share your view and have a fetish for black cocks getting into white girlfriends/wives. I find it so prohibited and lustful for a girl that loves her partner to succumb and submit to the seduction of a black man.
Michael – Your thoughts about a woman embracing her lustful ways and following a path that leads to experiencing a big black cock seems to be a hot button for some cuckolds.
Joshua – Yes, and that video you made (Naughty Angel) about this with that song is so amazing! I have jerked off like crazy to it so many times. I may learn a thing or two from you.
Michael – Thanks brother, I appreciate that. I really identify with the journey you guys are on. It is a path I have walked as well. I imagine the video connects with you because it captures the love of the woman for her man and also her erotic sensuality with another man…a black man. At any rate, it is always fun creating things that excite others.
Joshua – Yeah, you should do some more, even sell them, lol! You are really good at it and could make some serious money. Anyway, I want my girl to try a BBC for the first time. She is okay with doing it. In fact, we are already looking. I am hoping to get some intel from you before we cross the point of no return.
Michael – Regarding your BBC fantasy, I’m happy to answer any questions and share my experience. I have a few questions for you though. Depending on your answers, I can give you some tips to make sure it works out just like you fantasized. Tell me about the interracial aspect of your fantasy.
Joshua – I have liked interracial and cuckold porn for as long as I can remember. It is a huge turn on! I like it even better if it is amateur. I enjoy watching people that are really experiencing it and not just someone that is paid to do it. I like seeing the contrast of woman’s white skin against a black man’s along with his dominance over her and her sexual surrender to him. It is an experience that seems so prohibited yet the facial expressions and sounds of the woman convey just how much they are truly enjoying it.
Michael – Yes, these are so common themes: taboo, contrast, dominance/submission, your lover’s pleasure, and a woman’s sexual liberation. Based on your concern about the fallout afterwards (the point of no return), I imagine that you love your woman deeply?
Joshua – I do love her dearly, and that is why I want her to experience the best pleasure. We have been together about six years now and plan to marry. She is a good Christian girl and a little shy. She is pretty innocent sexually, but she is beginning to open up.
Michael – I’m sure she will make a wonderful wife, congratulations. You said you want her to experience the very best pleasure. In your view, she would experience this height of sexual fulfillment by having sex with a black man and experiencing his big black cock. How does she feel about this?
Joshua – When I shared my fantasy with her about a year ago. She didn’t react to it well. I challenged her, “If you love me, you should at least consider doing this for me.” She said she would think about it, but I wasn’t convinced. Over time, she was open to watching some of my favorite interracial videos with me. I always showed her ones which involved a lot of touching, kissing, and passionate sex. The men were very large also. She liked how the men treated the women in these videos and how much passion was present. She often commented on the size of those black men and was somewhat fascinated. We would sometimes watch these videos as foreplay and she would be so wet when I entered her. Time passed and I bought her a black dildo that we used during sex. I love seeing the contrast and how it fills her up. I’m amazed how much she can take and how she stretches so tightly around it as I work in and out of her. It gives her incredible orgasms too.
Michael – Watching some tasteful and erotic interracial videos is a great idea. Sometimes we get carried away in our fantasies and may gravitate to more extreme content. These probably aren’t the best way to build a woman’s interest. Women seem to have a bias towards erotica rather than hard-core porn. The dildo you purchased…is it larger than you?
Joshua – Yes, it is much bigger. That is part of the excitement. I want her to have more than I can give her. When we are making love, I will ask her what she thinks about black men. She will tell me about their big black cocks and how much bigger and fulfilling they must be compared to my little white one. She will tell me how black men deposit such heavy loads of semen in their women and how she wants to feel that too. She says a lot of hot things like this and it gets us both really, really hot! She likes to suck the black dildo while I fuck her from behind and she admits to now fantasizing about being with a black man. Sometimes when she is home alone, she even masturbates with the black dildo while imagining she is being taken by a real black man.
Michael – The size comparison of your smaller cock to a larger cock for your wife’s heightened pleasure is another common theme in cuckolding. I think we may associate a woman’s desire for larger cock with her accepting and embracing the fullness of her sexuality. A woman’s sexual arousal, whether we are the cause of it or not, excites us. We may also find arousal in having a smaller penis. Small Penis Humiliation/Teasing is a sexual fetish and is often found in cuckolding and FemDom. I see this as a form of psychological masochism where we eroticize what we perceive as our own inadequacies.
Joshua – Yes, I think you get me. I shared my story, do you have any tips for me?
Michael – It sounds like you have taken her to a point where she is onboard with making it reality. I do have a few suggestions as you move forward.
Appreciate that she is in an awkward situation. She loves you and you are her man. You unleashed this fantasy within her and encouraged her to want another man inside her. You can never make her feel any guilt at all for this in any way. She could have done this any time in her life but hasn’t. She is doing it now because she loves you and it turns you on. The thought of pleasing you was her initial impetus for even considering this. Over time, the fantasy has become hers as well but you are the foundation for it.
Secondly, make sure you share with one another the key moments you want to experience and discuss your boundaries and limitations. Share those with your Bull. A lot of other unplanned things will likely happen. However, if you all are aware of key experiences that are desired and boundaries, things will go smoother and more closely approach your ideal fantasy.
Finally, it will burn emotionally to see her sexually and sensually experience another man. Your heart is going to race and you may even feel sick at first. Remember, she loves you and it was your idea. Find moments to connect with her during the experience, feel her love and show her yours, and savor the intense pleasure of what you are experiencing as lovers. After your Bull leaves, you and her are still a couple and the afterglow is yours to share as a loving couple. Make sure it is a special afterglow.
Joshua – Wow, you make all of this sound sooo hot! Can I send you a sexy picture of my girlfriend? Maybe you would could help us with our first experience?
Michael – I am a white male though. I was thinking you might prefer a black man?
Joshua – Well, no one understands the fantasy like you do. I want my girl to have a great first experience and I think you will give it to her.
Michael – Well, this is unexpected. I think this is a good place to wrap up the interview. You have shared some wonderful insights about what drives your fantasy and I truly appreciate your candor. I hope it was a good experience for you too.
Joshua – Yes, I had fun but you can still help me. There is something about you that makes me feel excited to see you with my girlfriend. Can I send you a photo of my girl? Will you consider being with her? I think she will really enjoy you.
Michael – We’ll stay in touch.
Joshua is one of several people with cuckold fantasies that I have interviewed. He brought up a few themes which I intend to explore in future posts:
- Small penis teasing/humiliation
- His lover’s pleasure
- Cream pie
- Male submission (his)
- Interracial sex as taboo
- A woman’s sexual liberation/lustful surrender and/or submission
- Woman’s transformation from innocent to naughty
- Cuckolding itself is taboo behavior (we often overlook this most obvious theme)
- Contrast of skin tones (black skin against white)
- White female submission to dominant black male
- Passion (kissing, eye contact, and touching) between our lover and her bull
Additional interviews from The Cuckold Corner are available here – Cuckolding.